The Best Moms Don’t Do it All: How Moms Got Stuck Doing Everything for Their Families and What They Can Do About It Thomas Phelan

The Best Moms Don’t Do it All: How Moms Got Stuck Doing Everything for Their Families and What They Can Do About It – Ebook Instant Download/Delivery ISBN(s): 9781728251943,172825194X

Product details:

• ISBN-10 ‏ : ‎ 1728251923
• ISBN-13 ‏ : ‎ 978-1728251929
• Author(s): Thomas Phelan

It’s impossible to deny―most moms continue to do way more household work and childcare than most dads. Working full time, raising kids, cooking dinner, making sure every appointment and activity is lined up and that everyone gets there on time… no wonder you’re tired! But despite all the books and articles lamenting the crushing mental load and emotional labor women bear for their families, no one has come up with a plan to actually make things change. Until now.

The Best Moms Don’t Do it All is the first book that not only acknowledges the fact that moms are burning out, but shows you how to transfer responsibility for daily tasks from yourself to your partner and also (gasp!) your kids. Clinical psychologist and child discipline expert Thomas W. Phelan, PhD explains how we got into this mess in the first place, and how we can get out of it through a calm, systematic approach to teaching our families how to take initiative and contribute in meaningful ways. Dr. Phelan walks you through real-life situations and shows you how to step back from the things that are dragging you down. For example:

• Your Maternal Identity―the things you tell yourself you have to do in order to be a “good” mom
• The oppressive trap of chronic supervision

Table contents:

INTRODUCTION | Do You Feel Like the Family Nag?
PART I: How Did We Get Here?
ONE | Interpersonal Bonding vs. the Frantic Modern Family
TWO | The Equal Suffering Law: Moms vs. Dads
THREE | Children’s Independence vs. Chronic Supervision
FOUR | Your Maternal Identity: The Ten Commandments
FIVE | The Killer: Automatic Talking
SIX | Homework: A Manager Mom Case Study
PART II: How Do I Get Myself Back?
SEVEN | What Is Mom Doing Too Much Of?
EIGHT | The ABCs of Responsibility Transfers
NINE | Challenging Your Mommy ID
TEN | Mom’s Declaration of Independence
ELEVEN | More Tools for Responsibility Transfers
PART III: Installing a New Regime
TWELVE | Can a Seven-Year-Old Do His Own Laundry?
THIRTEEN | Getting Up and Out in the Morning: Temporary Trauma
FOURTEEN | Eliminating Primary Childcare with Tweens and Teens
FIFTEEN | Guerilla Warfare with Resistant Dads
SIXTEEN | Expediting Responsibility Transfers
SEVENTEEN | Cooking, Food Shopping, and Housecleaning
PART IV: Toddlers to Teens
EIGHTEEN | Preschoolers: Craziness, Precedents, and Sloppy Training
NINETEEN | Ages Six through Nine: Basic Training
TWENTY | Touchy Teens? Time for Independence
TWENTY-ONE | After Manager Mom

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